Spanking Uncle Should Take You Tube Video Down
Please no one else send me the youtube video of a supposedly concerned Uncle hitting his 16 year old nephew on camera. I don’t find it funny nor do I think it’s appropriate.
I’ve said many times that I’m not a fan of people hitting others—unless both parties are adults and getting paid for it. However, that’s not my main concern with this video. The biggest issue is what drives someone to post something like this on you tube for millions to see and what makes the viewers of the video laugh as though it’s not glaringly inappropriate.
With the advent of the internet, adult immaturity is constantly on display and no one can seem to do anything without broadcasting it to everyone else. I’ve personally been known to over-share on twitter and to sprinkle my blogs with things of personal note. But that’s my choice as an adult who knows the consequences that could happen as a result. For that reason, I ask why couldn’t this act of discipline remain a private matter?
A 16 year old does not know the consequences of having face splashed across the internet. We’ve seen this so many times with kids who post inappropriate things on social networks. But in this case, the 16 year old is not making the decision. He, as a child, is having his own privacy violated and any consequences thereafter are a result of an adult family member’s decision—not his own.
This is akin to having a parent with bad credit use their child’s name on bills and credit cards. Many a child’s credit has been ruined before they are of age because an adult made a choice for them that affected them negatively going forward.
I actually thought about that this subject this week at the “Princess Boy’s” parents continue to flaunt their little boy on TV. At some point you get the feeling that, despite what the parents may say, it ain’t about the kid.
The media has been talking a lot over the past few months about the consequences of bullying. This is the ultimate example of bullying. Someone whoops your ass and then posts it on the internet. Only, in this case tens of thousands of people laugh and egg the person on because, you know, it’s for your own good. It’s also an invitation to bully the child in the video something that could lead to him feeling an even greater need to prove himself tough when confronted.
People can argue that being hit is in the boy’s best interest. That’s fine, although by the time you’re 16, if you’re tough like I was, a beating is of no consequence anyway. It doesn’t change anything for the short or long term. But putting a child’s face online in any capacity ABSOLUTELY does.
When I hear people defend the Uncle’s actions what I hear is a sense that black folks need to do whatever they can to keep their children out of trouble. I heard one person say humiliating a child is better than having them join a gang. (By the way, it’s interesting what false choices people will provide when convenient). I wonder if people are aware that it is possible to both identify with the Uncle’s frustration and recognize that he has made a very serious error in judgment by putting his nephew on the internet.
It’s as if there is a complete lack of awareness of the vastness and power of the world wide web as well as the longevity of what is posted. No surprise given the behavior many adults are willing participate in online. As sites like Facebook delve deeper and deeper into your privacy, adult internet users post more and more, oblivious to how the innerwebs work in totality.
It’s sad because these adults are responsible for the lives of others and should make it their business to know better and exhibit better understanding of web use.
There are many parents of teens who do not allow their under-18 children to posts any pictures or videos of themselves online. What an extreme we’re dealing with here. While many parents are working day and night to protect their children’s identities and privacy some caretakers are willing to sacrifice a child’s safety and psychological health just to impress and entertain some strangers online.